Think about it, have you ever experienced a moment when you take a step back and you ask yourself why you do the things you do? Have you ever questioned yourself why you told her that she is not trustworthy while what you longed for was honesty and trust? Or why did you tell your boss that he was a jackass the other day while you have a need for cooperation and ease on the workfloor? Surely this way of expressing is not helping you to meet those needs which are so important to you!
Isn't it logical to respond with empathy and compassion to judgments and demands? Imagine conflicts with your colleagues friends, family and partners turn into meaningful dialogues where you get fully heard and understood. How would it look like if you can trust that everybody’s needs are taken care of in a group as efficiently and complete as possible?
In my courses based on Nonviolent Communication I invite you to speak a language with me that focuses on what we all share as human beings.
FEELINGS AND NEEDS
It is common sense that when we judge each other no one gets what he or she wants. Join me in exploring our inner world following the practical steps from NVC which enable us to connect no matter what worldview or opinion we have.
Are you your bank account? Your job? Are you a smoker? An enjoyer of life? A spiritual person? I believe who we are changes with the moment and I think the best place to look for you is in this moment through simple exercises that make you feel and experience yourself in connection with others. This way we peel away what you think you are and show you how to really stand for who you are. What would you ask for if you could make ANY request to the group? How would you respond to a group of people silently observing you for 20 minutes? When was the last time you screamed as loud as you could? Who are you really?
I like to think that when you know yourself, you are less likely to fall into behavioral traps within your relationships. My goal is to help lessen the suffering we create when we don’t pay attention to the uncomfortable things we feel. When we don’t share how something makes us feel out of fear of not being loved, we create space for things we don’t like to grow. I want to meet you with compassion and start dialogues about things that matter.
It is fun, it is cozy, there is dinner and music. You spend an evening with a small committed group of people who are determined to relax at the edge of their comfort zone. We practice what we thought we couldn’t do and challenge the beliefs we have about ourselves. This way we can grow the parts inside of us we like so much in others and stand in our power.
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In any relationship with another person communication is the key to feeling connected and willing to freely give to one another. I want to support you in shifting your perspective from blame, criticism and demand to compassion and empathy. Can you imagine never hearing any judgments and demands ever again and still living in reality?
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Imagine that at any moment you are able to experience that closeness with another person that you usually only experience with close friends, the materials below can support you in formulating your feelings and needs in a supportive way. I added the youtube video that inspired me 6 years ago and I invite you to watch the first 10 minutes to get a good impression of what Nonviolent Communication is about.
My name is Nick de Kok and I am fascinated by human interaction, not only the interaction with each other but also the interaction with oneself. Using Nonviolent Communication which I stumbled upon in 2011 I am exploring how we engage with ourselves and our fellow human beings. What attracts me in NVC is its structured and practical way of dealing with the human psyche which for me was often very confusing, especially my own when I was moving through puberty and early adolescence; even now sometimes.
What made me really passionate about NVC is the ease and depth it can bring in my connection with people. I love connecting with people and I feel close when I listen to the feelings and needs in both strangers and loved ones. I have a lot of fun expressing my inner world in words, movement and sounds and NVC has given me great awareness of my choice in every moment to make life better for myself and others in a caring and compassionate way.
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